Love is War

I was at Oktoberfest at my church earlier this month and a small, insignificant disagreement arose between my wife and I. Immediately one of our friends asked, “Is there anything you two don’t argue about?” Firstly, I’d like to point out that a disagreement between two people doesn’t automatically mean that they are arguing. Secondly, the word “argument” is not rightly understood because in no definition of the word is there any hint of malice or anger, just a debate, difference of opinion, or rationale.

But here’s something that most people don’t seem to understand: all marriages will come with arguments (as in disagreements, not the angry kind). That’s because we are all individuals with opinions, likes, dislikes, and whatnot. It’s when those disagreements become angry and hate-filled that we have a problem (and yes, every marriage will have experienced a slamming door at one point). The real question is how do you handle those situations and how do you move past them?

Do you hold on to grudges or do you forgive each other? Do you want to mold your spouse into your vision of him/her or do you accept him/her for who she is? Do you work at the marriage or do you just give up? Sometimes there is no hope because the other person doesn’t want to listen or change, but do you have no patience and move on too quickly?

I wanted to share this song with an interesting theme: love is war, but it’s worth fighting for.